The Man You Choose to Be: How Discipline Becomes Desire

Every man wakes up with a decision.

Not just what to wear, or what to do —
but who he’s going to be when no one’s looking.

Because the foundation of all game — all presence — all pull —
isn’t what you say.

It’s how you conduct yourself.

Want to lead a woman?
Control a room?
Haunt someone long after you’ve left?

You don’t need louder words —
you need a code.
A rhythm.
A system that builds you into something worthy of gravity.

This is about more than seduction.
This is about command.


Start Here: The Man You Wake Up As Sets the Tone

Before you speak.
Before you text.
Before you step out the door —
you’re already telling the world who you are.


1. Hydrate Like a Warrior in his Temple

Before the scroll —
before the caffeine —
before the noise —
water.

You don’t hydrate for thirst —
you hydrate like a man who respects the machine he was given.

This is about fuel.
About intention.
About not letting the world hit you while you’re still fogged up inside.


2. Pray. Or Reflect. Or Kneel to the Code.

This isn’t about religion.
It’s about anchoring yourself to something bigger than your ego.

Call it God.
Call it legacy.
Call it your future son watching from the shadows.

But you bow.
You whisper your thanks.
You call your own shots and obey.

Because humble men walk heavier.


3. Speak to Yourself Like a Man Building a Myth

While you groom —
you have that private conversation with yourself.

Not the surface talk.
The real one.

What do I stand for today?
What will I not allow?
What would I die over if it came to it?

This is where masculinity sharpens.

Not in the gym.
Not in the mirror.
But in the ritual of choosing who you are
before the world tries to tell you.


4. Make Your Bed. Control Your Domain.

Not because it’s aesthetic.
Not because you’re waiting on company.

But because you finish what you start.

Your space reflects your frame.

A chaotic bed = a chaotic mind.
A man who makes his bed is a man who tells life:
I run this.


The Foundation of Game Is Manhood — Period.

You want better game?
Clean delivery?
Presence? Charisma? That slow-burn pull that makes a woman lean in and whisper,
“there’s something about you…”

Start with how you conduct yourself as a man.
Because all game is based in that.

You don’t build game on charm.
You build it on disciplineself-respectintegrity, and decisiveness.

Game without structure is a wet sparkler —
bright for a second, then cold.

But game with structure?

That’s a fire that cooks meals.
That warms a home.
That lights the path for others.


5. Live the Code. Without Apology. Without Exception.

This is where the world starts to fold.

Because men compromise their code in moments of temptation.

When she’s pretty.
When it’s convenient.
When they think no one will notice.

But you?

You reflect.
You tighten.
You adjust — but never betray the foundation.

Because the man you want to be already exists —
he’s just waiting for you to act like it.


Final Word: You Don’t Perform. You Radiate.

A woman doesn’t fall for your words.

She falls for how your words feel
when backed by a life of alignment.

She feels the weight of a man who gets up with purpose.

Who doesn’t need permission to lead.

Who makes her feel safe — not because he promises,
but because he moves like a man who punishes betrayal with silence.


Game without manhood is cosplay.

But when your discipline is sharp,
your space is in order,
your presence is calm and earned —

Now the game plays for you.

You don’t chase.
You choose.

You don’t talk to fill space.
You speak like your voice has been fasting.

You don’t need to win women over.
You become the man they write about in group chats
long after you’re gone.

That’s the power of conduct.
Of ritual.
Of moving through the world like a man who doesn’t just know what he wants


but what he refuses to be.


Build the man.
And the rest will orbit.


The Rest is Up to You…
Jay Rico
The Highrise Hustler
AKA The People’s Champ

  • Meditations – Marcus Aurelius
  • As a Man Thinketh – James Allen
  • Man’s Search for Meaning – Viktor E. Frankl
  • Podcast: The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday
  • YouTube: David Goggins interviews
  • Poetry: Charles Bukowski’s “Roll the Dice”